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Yes already means Yes

California made headlines recently passing the first state legislation mandating a collegiate consent policy. The new state mandated statute requires colleges to adopt a “affirmative consent” policy to help the prevention of rape on college campuses. Affirmative consent requires all parties involved to get clear mutual consent instead of understanding how not to rape when someone says “no.” California colleges aren’t the only ones with this new policy, about 800 colleges across the nation have already put in place similar “affirmative consent” policies. 

Apparently, the purpose of adopting “affirmative consent” policies on college campus is suppose to benefit the victim(s). The policy shifts the burden of proof from the victim to the accused, that have critics saying it becomes “guilty until proven innocent” defense. 

Understandably, sexual assault and rape on college campuses has been brought into the spotlight in the media, and many colleges have been under fire for their handling reported complaints of sexual assault and rape by students. So, colleges and now States want to get pro-active about prevention  is a good thing, but this new “affirmative consent” policy seems to of forgotten that clear, affirmative consent is already needed to not be a crime of sexual assault or rape. 

Under federal law, 10 U.S. Code s. 920, spells it all out for what it means to be consent or lack of consent, and what is force and unlawful force. College campuses isn’t exempt from what is already established as law.

What this affirmative consent policy does do is nothing to educate students on what the f*ck rape means. Oh, you didn’t understand that her/his lack of motor skills and ability to stand due to intoxication meant it is not okay to have sex? Well, I can see how since he/she didn’t verbally say “no” makes it a gray area, if she/he had said “yes” it is as clear as day now. 

How about instead of focusing what the victim did or did not do, say, wear, or anything about the victim at all. Let’s shift the focus on teaching children from the start on what it means to no force someone to do something they do not want to do. If we can teach our children and this nations future how not to rape, we wouldn’t need to legislate what the definition of yes and no are in several different statutes. 

Low Cost Groceries, High Price Paid

Six weeks ago my parents would do all their grocery shopping at one particular place that I would consistently make jokes about, on the stereotype of being poor quality. Six weeks ago I have no clue that the employees of said grocery store I so routinely mocked, were anything BUT poor quality in their convictions. 

Market Basket, a New England based grocery store, with low prices that were difficult to match by other grocery companies and easily affordable for all income levels. However, there is always a twist, Market Basket is own by two families who have been publicly fighting for years. Currently, the company is owned by two cousins Arthur T. and Arthur S., it’s pretty much a classic tale of good vs. evil, and evil always forgets that it never wins in the end. Arthur T. is considered the “good” in this story, who owns 49% and Arthur S. is just evil without quotations and owns the rest of the company’s percentage. About five weeks ago, Arthur S. finally got the board of directors to vote Arthur T. out of CEO, meaning he still owned his part of the company, but no longer had any control over the management or future of the company. Arthur S., also got the board to vote on a $300 million payout to shareholders, which ceased construction and openings of the new stores currently in development. Along with firing Arthur T., two other top executives were fired and replaced by Arthur S.. One of the replacements was former CEO of RadioShack James Gooch, who has done outstanding things RadioShack so he was clearly the obvious choice. What happened next following the news that Arthur T. had been fired by Arthur S. was no one’s guess. 

The employees of Market Basket knew that without Arthur T. their livelihood was in danger, and Arthur S. was a greedy corporate fascist who only cared about his growing wealth. So the employees responded to Arthur T. being fired with a strong, powerful “NO.” MB employees didn’t just say “no,” they took action saying “no” and stopped working in protest until Arthur T. is brought back as CEO. 

Market Basket stores that were once fully stocked and parking lots so full  that finding a parking spot was commonly joked about, are now empty and some are even closed. Customers have joined in on the protest by taping grocery receipts from their competitors to the doors and windows of Market Basket’s. State politicians and lawmakers have spoken out in favor of the employees and Arthur T. News of the MB protests have made the rounds on the internet keeping up the protest’s momentum, with photos on Buzzfeed, articles on ThoughtCatalog, and a song written about Market basket by the Super Secret Project going viral. 

The media has made a saint out of Arthur T. and Arthur S. has dug himself a hole that only keeps getting bigger. The message of the employees wanting Arthur T. to come back to work is clear, yet sadly misleading by those who claim to be journalist following the Market Basket protest story. 

The focus is solely on how “great of a guy” Arthur “Artie” T. is and how employees loved working for him. What you won’t hear being reported during this protest, is the reason the employees are so desperate to get Artie T. back is due in part of severe lack of labor laws in this country to protect employees from evil corporations.

If regulations were already in place that made it mandatory to pay a fair living wage as minimum wage, or to pay holiday pay. Maybe if it was made unlawful for companies to cut full time workers to part time in effort to avoid the cost of having to provide health benefits. If health care was considered a right of the people in the slightest way possible, and not at the hands of corporations that now been granted religious exemptions for coverage. If congress passed legislation banning companies from outsourcing jobs to countries with little to no labor standards, and allowing companies to move overseas simply to avoid paying taxes. If it was a criminal violation for corporations to hire illegal immigrants instead of it only a fine that is practically a drop in the bucket to corporations. If agriculture and domestic workers were NOT exempt from regulations of the Fair Labor Standard Act. 

MAYBE, just maybe if any of that were true before Arthur T. was fired, the employees of Market Basket would of reacted differently. Those employees knew the harsh reality was working for a company without Arthur T., and the beautiful part is the fact that they stood up against it. The actions of the employees is really a glimmer of hope that the middle class is still alive and still strong. Corporations may of been ruled by the Supreme Court that they are people too, however, corporations can’t stock shelves like people, bag groceries like people, or be a customer like people are. Market Basket employees showed Arthur S. what the harsh reality looks like when greedy CEOs put profits over people. 

The efforts of all these employees, in my opinion, are grossly understated by both local and national news media. This protest happening in the midst of the fast food workers fight and proposals of raising the minimum wage by both state and federal legislatures. The power of the people can still impose change if they want it bad enough. Employees of Market Basket took a $4.6 billion a year company and turned it into a vacant parking lot in five weeks. Imagine what else can be done, and accomplished by the 99% in America if we stopped letting corporations take all the power? The potential of having a strong, vibrant middle class in America is still capable, if the middle class fights back to keep it’s strength. No one can say that it can’t be done because Market Basket employees showed everyone that it can be done. 

Mental Illness Is Not Violence With A Gun

In the wake of a horrific crime that took place near the UC Santa Barbara campus in California, it should be clear that violence is a problem. More specifically violence towards women isn’t something that happens far away in other countries, it happens right here in front of us. There should be an honest discussion about violence, and targeted hatred in society. There should be a logically approach to prevent gun related violence. There should be accurate news media reporting violent crimes without bias. There should be all of that in 2014. Sadly, it feels as though society is far from any of it.

A hashtag campaign immediately sprung to action on Twitter following the tragedy near UCSB called, #YESALLWOMEN, calling out how misogyny has become socially acceptable. Both men and women shared stories of what they’ve experienced and why we need stop allowing gender discrimination/violence to happen. 

While, I strongly encourage #YESALLWOMEN to trend and continue, I also would like to see an honest discussion about mental illness to happen. 

It seems that with each new extreme act of violence that takes place publicly, the person creating the violence is immediately deemed “mentally ill.” Not only does the media label the perpertrator as “mentally ill,” but the discussion goes from violence prevention to “you can’t cure or prevent someone with mental illness.” Which angers me in multiple ways, first being that mental illness is NOT violence with a gun. Second is why incurable diseases and illness such as cancer, Hepatitis, and heart disease, are studied so intently in hopes to one day find a cure. However, the broad mention of “mental illness,” and everyone is quick to say there is no cure and never will be. 

I think media needs to calm down on the use of the term “mental illness,” because it is an unfair and false perception of what mental health is. Everyone knows not all cancer is the same, and the term “cancer” is too vague to be said alone. The same applies to the term “mental illness,” there are many different types of illness that could fall under the umbrella of mental health. The argument often heard after a violent tragedy is that mental illness is uncontrollable and incurable, which is grossly misleading. There are ways to treat different types of mental illness, and if our healthcare system took mental health treatment more seriously, there would be no reason to believe research couldn’t cure a mental illness. To make claims that a person is “mentally ill” after committing a violent crime creates this myth that anyone with a mental illness is extremely violent. Unlike those diagnosed with cancer, who are often thought of as brave, and survivors, those with a mental illness are stigmatized and made to feel shameful about having an illness. I know many individuals who refuse to seek help because society has brainwashed us to think negatively towards mental health. 

Today’s culture has become this ridiculous blame game instead of looking at the problem face on. Gun violence gets blamed on “mental illness,” while at the same time gun sales go up and mental health care hasn’t gotten easier to access. Gender discrimination and violence gets blamed on the victim that has created what is now called “rape culture,” which teaches women they caused the problem. 

The violence that happened in Isla Vista, CA. is terrifying in many different ways. A 22 year old male became so angry towards women he had to act out with extreme violence. One question we should be asking ourselves is, are we doing enough to teach our children violence is wrong, and men and women are equal? If one 22 year old male believes women owe him sex, what does that say about the rest of our future male generation? 

We need to stop labeling those who act out publicly with extreme violence as “mentally ill,” as an explanation and end to the discussion of violence. Mental illness can be treated if we stop stigmatizing and shaming those who suffer all throughout the news media and internet. Violence is preventable, I can’t understand those who think it isn’t. If you don’t want your children and future generation to live in a society where men act violently towards women, or people can be targeted for their religious beliefs or lifestyles, and gun violence in schools is a daily occurrence. If that is what you don’t want, then you better pay closer attention to the messages being taught to our children. 

Now I’m getting heckled at work too?

Now I’m getting heckled at work too?

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