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Mental Illness Is Not Violence With A Gun

In the wake of a horrific crime that took place near the UC Santa Barbara campus in California, it should be clear that violence is a problem. More specifically violence towards women isn’t something that happens far away in other countries, it happens right here in front of us. There should be an honest discussion about violence, and targeted hatred in society. There should be a logically approach to prevent gun related violence. There should be accurate news media reporting violent crimes without bias. There should be all of that in 2014. Sadly, it feels as though society is far from any of it.

A hashtag campaign immediately sprung to action on Twitter following the tragedy near UCSB called, #YESALLWOMEN, calling out how misogyny has become socially acceptable. Both men and women shared stories of what they’ve experienced and why we need stop allowing gender discrimination/violence to happen. 

While, I strongly encourage #YESALLWOMEN to trend and continue, I also would like to see an honest discussion about mental illness to happen. 

It seems that with each new extreme act of violence that takes place publicly, the person creating the violence is immediately deemed “mentally ill.” Not only does the media label the perpertrator as “mentally ill,” but the discussion goes from violence prevention to “you can’t cure or prevent someone with mental illness.” Which angers me in multiple ways, first being that mental illness is NOT violence with a gun. Second is why incurable diseases and illness such as cancer, Hepatitis, and heart disease, are studied so intently in hopes to one day find a cure. However, the broad mention of “mental illness,” and everyone is quick to say there is no cure and never will be. 

I think media needs to calm down on the use of the term “mental illness,” because it is an unfair and false perception of what mental health is. Everyone knows not all cancer is the same, and the term “cancer” is too vague to be said alone. The same applies to the term “mental illness,” there are many different types of illness that could fall under the umbrella of mental health. The argument often heard after a violent tragedy is that mental illness is uncontrollable and incurable, which is grossly misleading. There are ways to treat different types of mental illness, and if our healthcare system took mental health treatment more seriously, there would be no reason to believe research couldn’t cure a mental illness. To make claims that a person is “mentally ill” after committing a violent crime creates this myth that anyone with a mental illness is extremely violent. Unlike those diagnosed with cancer, who are often thought of as brave, and survivors, those with a mental illness are stigmatized and made to feel shameful about having an illness. I know many individuals who refuse to seek help because society has brainwashed us to think negatively towards mental health. 

Today’s culture has become this ridiculous blame game instead of looking at the problem face on. Gun violence gets blamed on “mental illness,” while at the same time gun sales go up and mental health care hasn’t gotten easier to access. Gender discrimination and violence gets blamed on the victim that has created what is now called “rape culture,” which teaches women they caused the problem. 

The violence that happened in Isla Vista, CA. is terrifying in many different ways. A 22 year old male became so angry towards women he had to act out with extreme violence. One question we should be asking ourselves is, are we doing enough to teach our children violence is wrong, and men and women are equal? If one 22 year old male believes women owe him sex, what does that say about the rest of our future male generation? 

We need to stop labeling those who act out publicly with extreme violence as “mentally ill,” as an explanation and end to the discussion of violence. Mental illness can be treated if we stop stigmatizing and shaming those who suffer all throughout the news media and internet. Violence is preventable, I can’t understand those who think it isn’t. If you don’t want your children and future generation to live in a society where men act violently towards women, or people can be targeted for their religious beliefs or lifestyles, and gun violence in schools is a daily occurrence. If that is what you don’t want, then you better pay closer attention to the messages being taught to our children. 

Now I’m getting heckled at work too?

Now I’m getting heckled at work too?

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Excited to be a part of this year’s Women in Comedy Festival taking place May8-11th in Cambridge and Boston, MA. For shows, tickets, and information on workshops please visit:

www.womenincomedyfestival.com 


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Internet Bullying: How Would You Feel?

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Internet Bullying: How Would You Feel?

By Kayla Avery

Writing a comment about an individual on the internet rooted in hate is not something to be taken lightly. It’s probably the lowest form of humanity, because it shows the person writing the comment is too much of a coward to say it face to face. No matter what is being said about some one by another person, the fact of the situation is no one should be publicly attacked in such a…

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How Would You Feel?

Writing a comment about an individual on the internet rooted in hate is not something to be taken lightly. It’s probably the lowest form of humanity, because it shows the person writing the comment is too much of a coward to say it face to face. No matter what is being said about some one by another person, the fact of the situation is no one should be publicly attacked in such a malicious way so publicly. 

Bullying is real, and does real damage to people. It doesn’t matter if the bullying is in person or online, online could be more hurtful because anyone from anywhere can chime in and be anonymous. Bullying isn’t exclusive to children or teenagers, and being over 18 doesn’t make bullying socially acceptable. Bullying is leading people to commit suicide because they feel so awful about themselves that not living is better than enduring being bullied. 

Someone close to me recently had this situation thrown in her face. Someone took it upon themselves to privately message her on Facebook to let her know about all the rumors being said about her. Apparently unsatisfied with how the private message went, took to writing a public post that hatefully addressed a single individual without naming names. Multiple people jumped in on this post adding their comments, some referencing that they think they know who it’s about. Others took the post as fact and immediately disgraced the person in the post without actually knowing who it was about or who that person is. 

What horrifies me about this whole situation is, that it was a situation to begin with. The rumors in question mainly involved my female friend and various sexual relations with men that allegedly happened. First, WHY DOES IT MATTER? Second, WHY DOES IT F*CKING MATTER? 

Also, being mad at someone for their personal life choices doesn’t give YOU the right to humiliate them so viciously. To everyone who commented, you also have no right to force your opinions about a person on them. How would you feel if it was about you? If the way you lived your life was publicly in questioned and scrutinized by a group of people that you work with on occasion, how would it make you feel?

What gives you or anyone else the authority to criticize a person without any merit of truth or known facts? How does bullying an individual make the situation any better? Most importantly, how is that person affecting anything you do in life? 

What a woman does sexually is no one’s business but hers and her partners. A woman should never have to explain herself or tell about her sexual experiences. If it’s a question on if a woman is trying to sleep her way to the top so to speak? Who cares?! Because, if that is the case then usually there is a man in power knowingly taking advantage of women with said power on the deception of “helping her out.”

Bottom line is that bullying is a disgusting behavior and there is NEVER an okay reason to do it. It just makes you look like an absolute asshole. Also, maybe instead of focusing on other people’s lives, why not focus on something that would actually do some good in this world? Volunteering, picking up litter, getting a job? There is too much hate in this world, if we all spent more time accepting each other then maybe there wouldn’t be so much hate.